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“101 Secrets For Your Twenties” by Paul Angone: Chicken soup for the post-college soul

A photo of Paul Angone’s “101 Secrets For Your Twenties.” One of the tips Angone mentions is that your 20’s will be filled with failure, however, the key is to not call yourself a failure. TAYLOR HA/THE STATESMAN

This past holiday season, the question asked of every college senior popped up at the dinner table: What are your plans after graduation?

Eleven pairs of eyes swiveled toward me as I cleared my throat and set down my fork.

“You know…” I began, trying to sound cheerful. “I’ll basically be looking for jobs.”

My aunts and uncles were just curious. But when you’re a 21-year-old on the brink of graduating from college, that’s one of the most terrifying questions you can ask because for many the answer is, “I don’t know.”

“101 Secrets For Your Twenties” by Paul Angone is a wonderful starting point to help answer that question. It is the 208-page, post-college version of “Ned’s Declassified School Survival Guide.” 

Angone, a keynote speaker and the founder of All Groan Up, a millennial-targeted website, tackles juggling expectations with reality, the struggles of forging and maintaining meaningful friendships in adulthood, navigating the work world and the late night blues of social media. He shares these nuggets of wisdom with wit, self-deprecating humor and a down-to-earth attitude.

For a bit of humor, readers can look no further than Secret #5, “Don’t ever, ever check Facebook when you’re: A. Depressed. B. Drinking. C. Depressed and drinking. D. Unemployed. E. Struggling with being blessed with singleness while some of your friends seem to be blessed with a Brad Pitt lookalike and that blazing white picket fence shining with the glory of the American Dream on steroids. OR – F. Anytime after 9:17 p.m.”

His 101 “secrets” are the chicken soup for the 20-something-year-old soul – witty, but firm reminders that they are not alone on this journey, and that they will be more than okay a decade from now. For me, they were the best ‘chicken soup’ I’ve ever tasted. (No offense, Mom.)

Secret #6 says, “Life will never feel like it’s supposed to.”

For me, life does not feel like it’s supposed to. I’ve studied journalism for nearly four years, but my major feels more like a lover than a soulmate. And I don’t have a job lined up after college like I’m “supposed to.” I do know that I love to write narratives, capture life with my Canon Rebel t3i and travel. I’m positive that I can’t stomach needles, calculus and computer programming. I’ve crossed dozens of careers off my list. One day, I’ll find the best one for me. Not everyone follows the same clear-cut career path.

One secret in particular, Secret #25, hit home hard.

“Your 20s will produce more failure than you’ll choose to remember,” Angone wrote. “The key is, when you fail don’t begin calling yourself a failure.”

Last June, “failure” was the only word I could think of. I had applied to over 20 internships, but hadn’t landed a single one. For a few weeks, I was an Internet-surfing vagrant. I sat in my bed, scouring Indeed, Mediabistro and LinkedIn for last-minute openings. I typed cover letter after cover letter in an attempt to feel optimistic rather than envious of all college students who had an internship. By mid-July, I ended up becoming an intern at two companies in Manhattan. But I’ll never forget how I felt at the start of the summer: dejected, ashamed and defeated. Moral of the story: There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Some people have longer tunnel lengths, but you’ll get to the end.

For any reader feeling gloomy, Secret #41 is just what you need. It’s a secret disguised as a zany, foot-tapping nursery rhyme that will remind you of Dr. Seuss’s “Oh, the Places You’ll Go!” The only difference is that the Sneetches, the Whos and the Fox in Socks are not the stars of the show. The star is you, the lost reader, and Jeopardy! host Alex Trebek – the guy who seems to have all the answers.

Trebek/Angone says, “Just don’t give up hope. That’s what overcomers do best. No matter their failures, they rise above the unrest. Because the key is perseverance. It’s not sexy, but it’s true. And I swear, very soon, you’ll know exactly what to do.”

“101 Secrets For Your Twenties” is an inspirational read. Personally, it spurred me to do two things this winter break: 1. Ask my parents, aunts and uncles how they got to where they are now and 2. Map out the first draft of the story of my life – the life I want to live and love.

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