The Student News Site of Stony Brook University

The Statesman

59° Stony Brook, NY
The Student News Site of Stony Brook University

The Statesman

The Student News Site of Stony Brook University

The Statesman

Newsletter

Hate It Or Love It, It’s Here To Stay

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, a time when people are scrambling to  buy gifts and other tokens of love for each other. It’s a holiday where people make a special effort to appreciate the significant others in their lives.

The  people in our lives are what some of the most important things that we as humans deal with. Everyone has heard the saying, “It’s not important what you are doing, but whom you are doing it with.”

This message is a powerful one that gives even more meaning to this holiday. When we are old and have hopefully had a full life, our memories will consist of people and things that we have done with them.

Valentine’s Day, however, is also a day that a lot of people do not like. There seems to be two camps: those who hate it and those who love it. The people who hate it do so for a number of reasons.

A lot of them are people who do not have a significant other and feel that this holiday puts unfair pressure on them to find someone. Others don’t like it because they feel that it commercializes something that should be beyond commercialization.

Others hate it because they forget to buy a card and get in trouble. Individuals who don’t like this holiday might also be people who find it hard to meet and date others.

A reason for this might be that, in this day and age, we all grow up with a heavy dose of social conditioning and this colors everything we do, including meeting and dating people.

The media often puts unrealistic expectations about appearance and other things, that we then try to hold ourselves to. This leads to a lot of heartache and a lot of people who might have low self esteem because they feel that they do not fit into the vision that society has given us about what is desirable in terms of looks and traits.

We can try to avoid these judgments about ourselves and other people if we realize that our lives are not defined by what we see on television, but rather how we decide to live our lives.

If someone feels that they are not good enough for another person it is usually all in their head. This holiday should at least teach the less love-savvy among us that people should get out there and see what happens.

There is no way to know who you might meet. There can never be anything bad that comes from trying to meet new people. The only thing that can happen is that you will expand your social circle, if not run into that special someone.

Undoubtedly, the most important lesson we can take from Valentines day is the importance of the  love and care that we extend towards another person in our lives.

The love that people show should just not be reserved for this one day. Instead, we should realize that every day is one that we have to be thankful for. We  should show appreciation every single day for people in our lives. Humanity in general needs more love and appreciation.

If all the people in the world could realize that every single person is more similar to one another than they are different we would spare a lot of heartache that goes on around us.

If you have a special someone in your life, make sure to let them know everyday that you appreciate them being there, even if it isn’t Valentine’s Day.

Valentines day, however, is also a day that a lot of people do not like. There seems to be two camps :those who hate it and those who love it. The people who hate it do so for a number of reasons.  A lot of them are people who do not have a significant other and feel that this holiday puts unfair pressure on them to find someone. Others don’t like it because they feel that it commercializes something that should be beyond commercialization. Others hate it because they forget to buy a card and get in trouble. Individuals who don’t like this holiday might also be people who find it hard to meet and date others. A reason for this might be that, in this day and age, we all grow up with a heavy dose of social conditioning and this colors everything we do, including meeting and dating people. The media often puts unrealistic expectations about appearance and other things, that we then try to hold ourselves to. This leads to a lot of heartache and a lot of people who might have low self esteem because they feel that they do not fit into the vision that society has given us about what is desirable in terms of looks and traits. We can try to avoid these judgments about ourselves and other people if we realize that our lives are not defined by what we see on T.V, but rather how we decide to live our lives. If someone feels that they are not good enough for another person it is usually all in their head. This holiday should at least teach the less love-savvy among us that people should get out there and see what happens.There is no way to know who you might meet. There can never be anything bad that comes from trying to meet new people. The only thing that can happen is that you will expand your social circle, if not run into that special someone.

Undoubtedly,the most important lesson we can take from Valentines day is the importance of the  love and care that we extend towards another person in our lives. The love that people show should just not be reserved for this one day. Instead, we should realize that every day is one that we have to be thankful for. We  should show appreciation every single day for people in our lives. Humanity in general needs more love and appreciation. If all the people in the world could realize that every single person is more similar to one another than they are different we would spare a lot of heartache that goes on around us. If you have a special someone in your life, make sure to let them know everyday that you appreciate them being there, even if it isn’t Valentines day.

Leave a Comment
Donate to The Statesman

Your donation will support the student journalists of Stony Brook University. Your contribution will allow us to purchase equipment and cover our annual website hosting costs.

More to Discover
Donate to The Statesman

Comments (0)

All The Statesman Picks Reader Picks Sort: Newest

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *