I was in the fourth grade when nine-year-old Becky Jin asked me the question, “Are you a virgin?”

At the time I had just recently arrived from India, and the only thing on my mind was cricket and chocolates (Nestle Crunch to be precise). I hadn’t a clue what she was talking about, but even so I decided to go with the smart answer. “Why should I tell you?!” I replied, as if I had years of experience in being a virgin, or not being one in that matter.

I was in the fourth grade?why is everyone in this country in such a rush to have sex? Was love ever part of the equation in the first place? Think about it. Everything a guy does, he hopes it will eventually lead to sex. Taking her out to a fancy dinner, buying her flowers and teddy bears, and even giving her compliments about how she looks. For some girls, even taking her out for a Big Mac and the latest chick flick is enough to close the deal, and that too on a first date.

The girls aren’t as different from the guys; in fact they are as sex starved as the men are. Wearing revealing clothing, thongs, tight jeans, push up bras, and to top it off, excessive make up. And then the women have the audacity to complain when men stare? How hypocritical I must say. If attention is what a girl wants, then attention is what she will get.

And we wonder why divorce rates are soaring in America? It’s quite simple actually, the foundation of most relationships (or shall I say the backbone) is sex. A couple has a little tiff or heated argument, 9 out of 10 times they will tend to resolve the issue not by talking it out, instead they indulge themselves in one or two rounds of make up sex. Which will clearly solve the problem for about two or three days.

The cycle of arguments and make-up sex will continue on until the feeling of uneasiness eventually takes over and one day the girl finally realizes, “Oh my god, he doesn’t love me, it’s just the sex.” Then she will panic and resort to breaking up with him, but not before having one last round of break up sex.

I say, why even bother to go through the whole process? The flirting, the impressing, and the dating. Why not just get to it after the initial eye contact? As comedian Chris Rock explains so effectively, a woman knows whether or not she will have sex with you within ten seconds of shaking your hand.

Patience is the key. Keep your eyes open, and search for the right individual. Don’t jump the gun and give into societal pressures, preserve your dignity for the right man or woman. Find a man that is excited to see you even early in the morning when you have no make up on and your hair is all messed up and you’re wearing sweatpants with “Juicy” printed on the rear. Find a woman that loves things about you that you in turn hate about yourself, since in that case whatever you do; you’re still off the hook.

If a smile or a simple glance from your significant other is enough to make you feel complete, chances are you won’t have to rely on makeup sex for your problems, but rather each other.